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Ellen Fein on
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When you really don't like a guy, he is all over you, and as soon as you act like you like him, he's no longer interested.
BEYONCE KNOWLES

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BEYONCE calls The Rules her "fave" book, Supermodel CHERYL TIEGS calls it her "Bible," and OPRAH says "Men love Rules Girls," and much more!
Ellen and Sherrie with Cheryl Tiegs
Ellen and Sherrie with Cheryl Tiegs

For most of my life, I was not a Rules girl. If a guy
called, I called right back. There was no intrigue.
Then, about 10 years ago, I read the book and
 it became my bible. CHERYL TIEGS

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Ellen and Sherrie with John Stossel on 20/20
Ellen and Sherrie with John Stossel on 20/20
Ellen and Sherrie with Don Imus
Ellen and Sherrie with Don Imus
Ellen and Sherrie with Charles Grodin
Ellen and Sherrie with Charles Grodin
He's Just Not That Into You!
"We know this is hard to accept. We've heard it all
every rationalization imaginable...he was going to call but didn't. Now you're sure it's because you didn't smile or talked too much or didn't thank him for dinner... The bottom line is, if he hasn't called, he's not that interested. —All The Rules, p. 231
Ellen and Sherrie with Goumba Johnny, WKTU radio
Ellen and Sherrie with Goumba Johnny, WKTU radio
Ellen with Jackie Collins
Ellen with Jackie Collins
It's a fantasy relationship unless a man asks you out. —All The Rules, p. 195
Don't waste time on a fantasy relationship. You may have a good rapport with your doctor, lawyer or accountant, and you may find yourself wondering if he is interested in you romantically. How can you know for sure? If he's never asked you out, then He's Just Not That Into You!
Ellen with Anne Meara and Dr. Drew Pinsky
Ellen with Anne Meara and Dr. Drew Pinsky
He's Just Not That Into You!
We're not saying he doesn't like you or that he didn't have a great date or that you're not on his mind sometimes, but if he hasn't actually dialed your number, how interested can he be? —All The Rules, p. 232
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Ellen with Merv Griffin

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Even though it's what you feel, is it necessary
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OPRAH

     As Dating Coaches Ellen & Sherrie Offer the Following Services:

  • The Rules for Online DatingHow to Tell if He's Just Not That Into You!
  • Rules for Texting and Online Friendship/Dating Networks
  • Dating history (i.e. Rule-breaking patterns)
  • Childhood issues that affect men you attract
  • How to be a Creature Unlike Any Other (CUAO)
  • Is texting and other new technology making dating even more confusing? Looking for dating rules for e-mail and cyberspace?
    Read TR for Online Dating! Or book a consult with Ellen and Sherrie.
  • Personal shopping and makeovers (see "before and after" photos of clients). Some women don't understand why they are not meeting or attracting the men they want. In some cases, the problem is not The Rules, but their appearance. Before and After PhotosWe offer a total head-to-toe analysis and recommendations for diet, exercise, makeup, hair, clothes, etc. We meet you in NYC or NJ for a makeover and to shop for clothes and accessories. Or we help you via phone, e-mail and Skype (video webcam) by sending you links to the right clothes, makeup and hair styles. E-mail us at consult@therulesbook.com to sign up! Plus: advice on plastic surgery including nose jobs, breast implants, and liposuction.
  • Where to meet men (including tips for online and video/matchmaking dating services)
  • How to do The Rules at parties, bars, clubs, and singles events, as well as online
  • How to know if you are in a Rules relationship now
  • How to act on dates in the early stages of your relationship
  • How to juggle e-mailing and calling in a relationship
  • How to write an ad and post the best photo if you are doing online dating
  • How to get a man to propose, and if he doesn't, how to move on
  • How to apply The Rules if you are engaged or married and much more!
  • Rules for Work...Contact Career Coach Nancy Friedberg at www.careerleverage.com

Listen to what Ellen and Sherrie say. He has to like your looks first.
   
— OPRAH
 

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Ellen and Sherrie Want to know if  He's Just Not That Into You?
Finding it hard to follow The Rules? Our 12-week Rules Dating & Relationship Coach Course explains The Rules on a deeper level than our books and seminars. The course consists of 12 online weekly lessons that include how to do e-mail and phone consultations like we do them. It also reinforces and motivates anyone trying to do TR in their own love life. The course is offered all year round. The fee is $1,200 (by credit card) and non-refundable. Students must pass three tests to become Certified Rules Coaches, which will then entitle them to have their contact information posted on our website. For Rules School--lessons but no certification--it's $800.

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Don't ever call! If he's interested, he'll call....I just finished reading The Rules. That is the best book ever
—KELLY ROWLAND Destiny's Child (CosmoGIRL!)

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Want to know if He's Just Not That Into You? Finding it hard to follow The Rules? Not understanding how and why they work? Want more than what's in our books? Take our
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Not meeting the man of your dreams? Sometimes the problem is not The Rules, but your appearance. Ellen and Sherrie offer a total head-to-toe beauty analysis, as well as suggestions and online links for makeup, hair, clothes, diet/exercise, and accessories.
 
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We offer closet makeovers and personal shopping for clothes and accessories, online and in person! Top 10 Rules
The essentials.

Just Do The Rules
An inspirational rap song by Sherrie Schneider,
Ellen Fein and Marilyn Michaels.

Download the song here (5MB).
 

 
The Rules Book in SpanishComo conquistar Marido Los consejos de nuestras abuelas para casarse con el hombre ideal
Ediciones Martinez Roca  (we have been told it is out of print, but some women have e-mailed us to say they have been able to track it down, notice the different title) good luck.
FYI: "The Rules" is published in 26 languages:
Russian
Spanish (Spain
and Latin America)
Swedish
Turkish
Bulgarian
Chinese
Croatian
Czech
Dutch
English (Australia, Canada, New Zealand, U.K. and U.S.)
Estonian
Finnish
French
German
Greek
Hebrew
Hungarian
Icelandic
Italian
Japanese
Korean
Latvian
Lithuanian
Polish
Portuguese
Romanian


   Authors' note: We are not licensed to practice psychology, and The Rules is not intended to replace psychological counseling,
   but is simply a dating philosophy based on our own experiences and those of thousands of women who have contacted us. E&S 
 


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