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    —Mademoiselle
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Rules for Jennifer

Dear Jennifer,
We love you, we love "Friends", your hair, your tan, ....But we don't love your love life! So we wrote these 10 Rules for you and anyone getting over an ex!

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Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, Dating Coaches
Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider
Dating Coaches

The Rules Consultation Corp
Phone: (212) 388-7910   Fax: (973) 422-0048
E-mail:
consult@therulesbook.com

For the subject, please write The Rules Book to avoid e-mails getting deleted as spam. We cannot answer any dating questions that are not submitted via our consultation forms.
 

Oprah Winfrey
Men like Rules
Women

The Rules isn't just a book, it's a movement, honey  OPRAH
Success Stories
Sherrie and Ellen at Ellen's Wedding

ELLEN FEIN'S wedding and other happy endings 
Ellen and Sherrie with Matt Lauer
Ellen and Sherrie with Matt Lauer
Ellen and Sherrie with Katie Couric
Ellen and Sherrie with Katie Couric

 Grazia Magazine, UK October 13, 2008
Ellen Fein on
New Dating Rules and Much More!

Featured in Grazia Magazine, UK
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Beyonce Knowles...a Rules Girl
When you really don't like a guy, he is all over you, and as soon as you act like you like him, he's no longer interested.
BEYONCE KNOWLES

Celebs Rave About The Rules!

BEYONCE calls The Rules her "fave" book, Supermodel CHERYL TIEGS calls it her "Bible," and OPRAH says "Men love Rules Girls," and much more!
Ellen and Sherrie with Cheryl Tiegs
Ellen and Sherrie with Cheryl Tiegs

For most of my life, I was not a Rules girl. If a guy
called, I called right back. There was no intrigue.
Then, about 10 years ago, I read the book and
 it became my bible. CHERYL TIEGS

Find Rules Contacts and Support Groups Worldwide

Call or e-mail a Rules contact so you don't break a rule! Also check out telephone support groups, a live support group in New York City, and online Rules forums.


Consult with a Rules Dating/Relationship Coach

Reduced rates. Certified Dating Coaches are trained by Ellen and Sherrie.

Featured in
Glamour Magazine

Glamour Magazine Article, September 2007

Read the full article here

Ellen and Sherrie with John Stossel on 20/20
Ellen and Sherrie with John Stossel on 20/20
Ellen and Sherrie with Don Imus
Ellen and Sherrie with Don Imus
Ellen and Sherrie with Charles Grodin
Ellen and Sherrie with Charles Grodin
There is a certain kind of woman who is given to long tousled hair, sheer black panty hose, and acting maddeningly elusive to every man...She is breezy, confident, and independent, as well as coy, manipulative, and very, very hard to get. She is a Rules Girl. —New York Times
Ellen and Sherrie with Goumba Johnny, WKTU radio
Ellen and Sherrie with Goumba Johnny, WKTU radio
Ellen with Jackie Collins
Ellen with Jackie Collins
Ellen with Anne Meara and Dr. Drew Pinsky
Ellen with Anne Meara and Dr. Drew Pinsky
If you’re a single woman trying to keep your own life from becoming a soap opera, then The Rules has something to tell you. —New Jersey Monthly Ellen with Merv Griffin
Ellen with Merv Griffin

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The Boston Globe
Romancing the vote - and the wives - on camera

Featured in the Boston Globe, Aug. 29, 2008
photo by Charles Dharapak, AP

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E-mail Consultations with Authors
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Consultation: $300 (includes one free follow-up).
Quick question: $150.

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One-hour phone consultation......$350
Half-hour phone consultation.....$250
15 minute phone consultation.......$150
Package of eight 45-minute phone consultations..... $1500 a total savings of $600 from hourly rate.

Ellen and Sherrie with Joan Rivers
Ellen and Sherrie
with Joan Rivers

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All consultations must be paid for in advance by credit card and are non-refundable.
E-mail: consult@therulesbook.com
We e-mail everyone back within 24-48 hours, including weekends and holidays. If you do not hear back from us within 2 days, please e-mail us and let us know you have not received our response, just in case there is a computer glitch (spam filters etc.).

Even though it's what you feel, is it necessary
to tell him that on the first date?
OPRAH

     As Dating Coaches Ellen & Sherrie Offer the Following Services:

  • An evaluation of your dating history (i.e. rule-breaking patterns) in past and present relationships
  • An analysis of childhood issues that may affect the kind of men (abusive, alcoholic, bad financially, dysfunctional, etc.) that you are attracting
  • How to be a Creature Unlike Any Other (CUAO), i.e. have self-esteem and feel good about yourself, whether or not you are in a relationship
  • Before and After PhotosPersonal shopping and makeovers (see "before and after" photos of clients). Some women don't understand why they are not meeting or attracting the men they want. In some cases, the problem is not The Rules, but their appearance. We offer a total head-to-toe analysis and recommendations for diet, exercise, makeup, hair, clothes, etc. We meet you in New York City or New Jersey and take you for a makeover, and shopping for clothes, bags, shoes, and jewelry so you look sexy and feminine to attract to desirable men. If meeting in person is geographically not possible, we do everything by phone and e-mail... we e-mail you links to clothes or send you catalog tear sheets or buy clothes for you and send them to you. E-mail us at consult@therulesbook.com to sign up! Plus: advice on plastic surgery including nose jobs, breast implants, and liposuction.
  • Where to meet men (including tips for online and video/matchmaking dating services)
  • How to do The Rules at parties, bars, clubs, and singles events, as well as online
  • How to know if you are in a Rules relationship now
  • How to act on dates in the early stages of your relationship
  • How to juggle e-mailing and calling in a relationship
  • How to write an ad and post the best photo if you are doing online dating
  • How to get a man to propose, and if he doesn't, how to move on
  • How to apply The Rules if you are engaged or married and much more!
  • Rules for Work...Contact Career Coach Nancy Friedberg at www.careerleverage.com

Listen to what Ellen and Sherrie say. He has to like your looks first.
   
— OPRAH
 

Sign up for The Rules School
Ellen and Sherrie Finding it hard to follow The Rules? Not understanding how and why they work? Want more than what's in our books? Take our e-mail course and learn The Rules better! This course is for those just wanting to do TR better themselves, but not to become certified Rules Dating & Relationship Coaches. The 12 weekly e-mail lessons include explanations of some of the harder to understand rules and examples of e-mail and phone consultations. But there are no tests to pass and the course fee is only $600. Sign up now by e-mailing us at consult@therulesbook.com!
 

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The Rules - New York Times Bestseller

A 10-week online course by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, co-authors of The Rules, # 1 New York Times bestseller, with 2 million copies sold. E-mail consult@therulesbook.com for more details.

 

Speaking Engagements

Ellen and SherrieSherre and Ellen at Ellen's WeddingCall (212) 388-7910 or check back on our web site to find out about speaking engagements and media appearances.

"The Rules for Starting Over"
Seminar and Q&A
Monday, October 20
Indigo 02 London
8:00 pm — 10:30 pm
Doors open at 7:30 pm

For more information, contact: BMK Entertainment spiceisland10@aol.com

Tickets:  www.theo2.co.uk   www.ticketmaster.co.uk   www.seetickets.com

 
Phone consultations with The Rules authors
Consult with Ellen and Sherrie on dating (online and off), relationships, makeovers, marriage & much more! Same-day response!

Order Rules Books & Tapes
All the Rules
Sold in bookstores, not here.
All The Rules, The Rules for Online Dating, The Rules for Marriage, The Rules, The Rules II, The Rules I, II and The Rules for Marriage (England) Harper Collins

Order Seminar Tapes
Audiotapes, CDs, Videos and DVDs of live Rules seminars.

Purchase the London CDNEW !!! Live from London with ELLEN and SHERRIE

Two-hour CD of our October 20, 2008 Seminar at Indigo O2 in London, includes where to meet single men, why talking to a man first/e-mailing him first is the kiss of death, tips on texting and online dating, closing the deal, testimonials, Q&A, and much more! $75.

A lot of good advice...Friends should read the book together, discuss The Rules and the reasons for them and encourage each other to stick to The Rules. They may laugh at first, but if they follow The Rules, it will take a lot of stress off themselves, allow them to be happier in their lives, and pave the way for a lasting relationship with a man who does the pursuing—and feels rewarded when he catches the woman he adores.
—Baton Rouge Sunday Advocate

E-mail your dating and relationship questions
Not sure if you are following The Rules? Need help with your relationship? Having a dating emergency? E-mail Ellen and Sherrie, 100% confidential and encrypted.

Become a Dating / Relationship Coach
Want to learn The Rules better and be trained by Ellen and Sherrie to do consultations? Become a Rules Dating & Relationship Coach!

Buy a Rules Gift or Certificate
The Rules Gift Certificate

Looking for a perfect birthday, holiday or "no special occasion" gift for a girlfriend or relative? Order a gift or gift certificate.

Schedule a Makeover!
Not meeting the man of your dreams? Sometimes the problem is not The Rules, but your appearance. Ellen and Sherrie offer a total head-to-toe beauty analysis, as well as suggestions and online links for makeup, hair, clothes, diet/exercise, and accessories.
 
Closet Makeovers
We offer closet makeovers and personal shopping for clothes and accessories, online and in person!

Just Do The Rules
An inspirational rap song by Sherrie Schneider,
Ellen Fein and Marilyn Michaels.

Download the song here (5MB).
 

 
The Rules Book in SpanishComo conquistar Marido Los consejos de nuestras abuelas para casarse con el hombre ideal
Ediciones Martinez Roca  (we have been told it is out of print, but some women have e-mailed us to say they have been able to track it down, notice the different title) good luck.
FYI: "The Rules" is published in 26 languages:
Russian
Spanish (Spain
and Latin America)
Swedish
Turkish
Bulgarian
Chinese
Croatian
Czech
Dutch
English (Australia, Canada, New Zealand, U.K. and U.S.)
Estonian
Finnish
French
German
Greek
Hebrew
Hungarian
Icelandic
Italian
Japanese
Korean
Latvian
Lithuanian
Polish
Portuguese
Romanian


   Authors' note: We are not licensed to practice psychology, and The Rules is not intended to replace psychological counseling,
   but is simply a dating philosophy based on our own experiences and those of thousands of women who have contacted us. E&S 
 


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